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Wedding ceremony, vow & toast writing and support
Wedding ceremony, vow & toast writing and support
Vows are the essence of everything that's brought you to this day. Your most public opportunity to tell your soon-to-be what you love most about them and your life together. So make sure you're sharing your love story and life-long commitments in the best version of your own voice.
If you're keeping things a surprise, a review of both spouses' vows helps keep your ceremony balanced without ruining the reveal for either of you.
This ranges from sharpening existing vows to drafting from scratch.
The best case scenario for a bad toast is that it is easy to forget. Many . . . aren't. Whether aiming for heartfelt or hilarious, get help writing or rehearsing before the big day so you can be sure to leave the audience in tears.
This ranges from review and feedback on an existing speech or toast, to assistance drafting and delivery practice.
Your wedding is unlike any other. Having a family member or friend officiate? Avoid templated services from the internet by providing them with support. Ensure your ceremony is conducted with both love and expertise, creating a memorable experience for you and your guests.
This ranges from review and feedback on an existing written service, to full development and delivery practice.
You've prepared one of the most meaningful statements in your life. Don't overlook practicing delivering your vows before you're facing your spouse and standing before your guests.
Writing a note for your spouse carves out a private moment during a bustling event, capturing your feelings and intentions forever. These are often letters, cards, or keepsakes that will be treasured and read each anniversary.
Ask about any moment where you need to find the right words.
All wedding personalization begins with an exploration of your relationship and the people in it, with a connection call and then keeping a shared document. Common themes we'll peruse are personal and biographical details; major milestones, life events and places; religious and cultural considerations; communities and important relationships. Together, we'll find which stories and details to share. Then refine them into the best version of your own words.
Your wedding ceremony and vows should be heartfelt and distinctive. I do not use any AI tools. They are written with and for only you.
If you choose to use AI tools to brainstorm or write, know that the outputs will be based on popular media, templates and other weddings, so you may see similar phrases and details. Consider which questions you need to prepare, how elements come together to create a cohesive and meaningful ceremony, and how statements will feel when read in front of the most important people in your life.
Kaitlin Carpenter is a writer, communication strategist, and event producer who has witnessed too many well-meaning weddings vows and toasts given off-the-cuff (though always from the heart). Combining her master's degree in writing with more than a decade of experience coaching people to speak on both local and international stages, Kaitlin helps brides, grooms, officiants and best friends prepare what to say and how to say it—before the big day.
Learn more about my communications consulting work and professional qualifications.
“Kaitlin was such a huge help with our wedding. She helped put together the ceremony to ensure everything flowed beautifully, and was even able to help me turn my mess of notes into beautiful vows! I was worried about so much that day, and knowing we were ready for those big parts was such a relief!”
Tailor Rivas, married in Idaho, 2018
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Bailey Mewes, married in Idaho, 2026
“Working with Kaitlin let me feel confident personally expressing myself in my vows. I didn’t have to wonder if my husband’s vows would be a drastically different tone or length. Not worrying about logistics let me focus on the feelings I wanted to share. She was able to look at both set of vows and help fine tune aspects for flow and clarity without changing the heart of what we wanted to say to one another. She’s quick, thoughtful and the only person I ever even considered asking to read mine and my husband’s vows beforehand."
Aimee Levesque, married in Italy, 2026
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